Natalie had her very first school concert on Tuesday night and she was very excited! Until she wasn’t…..the very first thing she said to me when I picked her up from school on Tuesday afternoon, was that she didn’t want to go to her concert. We talked about it on the way home and we talked about it some more at home. There have been many times when Nat hasn’t wanted to do something and we’ve nudged her to do it and it’s turned out ok, but only because we can tell that she’ll be ok. This seemed different, she genuinely didn’t want to go. Honestly, it’s not that big of a deal – there will be plenty of other concerts throughout her school years, so we’re not super anything about it. The kids played outside for hours yesterday, they hit the school playground for a little while and played in the yard even more. She was happy as happy can be. She did mention, during her bath, that she was sad that she missed her concert. My follow up question was, ‘well, do you wish you would have gone?’ Her answer was an immediate no, she was still glad she didn’t go. So, while a lot of times we are merely doing our best guesswork as far as parenting goes, this one seemed to have worked out for the best.
Once she was all settled in her room for goodnight, she did let us know that she didn’t want to go to school tomorrow. James and I exchanged glances, wondering if this had something to do with missing the concert, but upon further examination, she told us that there is a test at school tomorrow and she was very nervous about making mistakes. I hugged her and told her that we don’t care how she does, that who is she is and will be is way more important than any test, period. We know that she is bright and capable and that mistakes are totally fine with us. She seemed reassured and even more so after James and she discussed it a bit further after I left her room. Just to be sure, I checked the school assessment calendar and there is no district testing going on (she seldom even mentions this, so I think they are doing an excellent job playing it down) and so she is just nervous about a class test. She is a perfectionist, so she does have a hard time and we’re working on this with her.
Rest assured, she was jolly this morning and happily sent off to school, haha. Natalie really enjoys school and we’re glad that she does and we genuinely love the staff there, they are all involved and invested, it’s really great. I do think though, that Nat does get overstimulated and overwhelmed sometimes from school and how loud it is and the general energy of the kids. This is why we don’t ‘do homework’, so that she has plenty of time to decompress and play and play and play. She is excelling at reading, and she can add and subtract 3 numbers in her head, so she’s really doing ok. It’s all just hard, isn’t it, haha.
Here is a final after for the house….before we then start using it as a ‘before’ when we plant our new stuff!